Sexless in Japan: What is Going on Over There? I Guess Nothing`s Coming Off!

What Could Be More Important Than a Career, or …

Is There Much More to it Than That? 

It would appear that a staggering number of Japanese people have completely no interest in sex. Why is this the case and what are the issues associated with it? In one survey, “61% of Japanese males over the age of 40 stated that they are not involved in any kind of relationship. Almost 50% of girls aged between 16 & 24 stated that the thought of sexual intercourse was repulsive or even disgusting. More than 25% of boys from the same age-group stated the same” (Morgan/Newton, Journey TV, 2014). Could it possibly be the case that the  "whole thing" is a business, pure and simple? “First, find out whether the guy is marriage-minded. Next, decide if he’s the type to cheat” (Shoji, K, Japan Times, May 4, 2015). One woman, a successful musician, stated, "I don't think I'll ever marry. What if he doesn't earn as much money as I do?"  So, what's love got do with it? Are there, however, many more issues to be considered? 

I once, asked a girl working behind a bar, "how the hell do you meet people in this country?" Answer: "at work." 'Dating should always begin with an elaborately polite process that includes exchanging business cards and a full stating of the man’s intentions` (ibid)! `My younger friend Izumi sighed, gave me a long, pitying look and said: “These days, it’s impossible to just meet someone. In order to have a relationship, I have to go to the beauty salon, and then I have to go to matchmaking parties, otherwise I’ll never cut it”` (Shoji, 2015).

Tomohiro Osaki, provides us with the young man`s perspective, and how he sees the issues and complexities of what what was once, perhaps, the most fundamental and essential elements of human biology. `Nakamura, an 18-year-old university student, winces whenever he imagines himself dating a girl. “I mean, I would have to pay attention to what I wear and rack my brains to figure out where I should take her for a date. . . . It’s just too much of a hassle,” he says` in another article from the Japan Times, January 5th, 2016, found here: http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2016/01/05/national/social-issues/many-young-japanese-marriage-sex-low-priorities/#.Vo4kq0ty9Zi.

`Many people who seek her out, says Aoyama, are deeply confused. "Some want a partner, some prefer being single, but few relate to normal love and marriage"` (Haworth. A, para 6, 2013). `“I’m not interested in real-life sex. Just watching those videos is enough,” he [Nakamura] says` (Osaki, para 19, 2015). `Aoyama believes the country is experiencing "a flight from human intimacy" – and it's partly the government's fault` (ibid, para 2, 2013).

Much has been written by way of evidence that the human psyche, indeed, mental health and well-being is "dependent" upon healthy intimacy between human beings. Pease & Pease cite statistics, in their books, that people who have a regular, healthy sex-life are more active, more mentally astute, & get sick less often, than do those "going without." Those with a more "spiritual" bent argue that when you are engaging in loving intimate sex, you're accessing soul-source information; that your body's vibrational frequency is going "off the charts;" that you are accessing the tree of life; that you are joining Kundalini energies and thereby strengthening them for/with each other. Psychologists observe and teach their students at universities that intimacy and a healthy sex-life is fundamental to human happiness, and health. Of the most disturbing elements of this topic, is that many sources who have studied repeat violent sex offenders, state that "every" single one of them: in "every single case," running through the psychological milieu, of each of them, is one common thread: in child-hood they received no emotional/love energies from parents: no kisses nor cuddles, no healthy forms of intimacy.

A most interesting - and, perhaps, cataclysmic - result of the above attitudes towards sex, intimacy and interpersonal relationships in Japan, is that it has/is seemingly created/creating a generic, genderless, worker-bee: It is seemingly removing "gender." It could be just me - having lived in Japan for too long - but, it seemed to become increasingly difficult for me to differentiate between man and woman - in certain socio-economic groups - the longer I stayed in Japan: there seemed to be a particular age - and demographic - sub-culture that wear the same generic soldier uniform, have the same haircut, speak in/with a same effeminate voice and tonality, and exhibit the same unisex gesticulations. Could it be the case that all of this is simply evolution in progress? A culling of a species - from within - by making itself A-sexual by way of preserving itself via population control? Whatever the case may be, Japan is, apparently, at an extremely interesting social stage.      

Posted by, Elliot Sabino June 28, 2015.